Just show up as you are. You don’t have to look or feel great. You don’t have to be prepared for each challenge or know all the hows at every situation. You don’t have to be fearless, or have all the answers, or be 100% ready. Nobody is any of these things. Nobody ever was. It’s not about being perfect at all. You just have to show up as you are, despite all the objections and insecurities of your mind, despite each and every fear that threatens to hold you back, despite the limitations and criticisms others will place on you. To hell with it all. This is your life, your journey, your adventure, and all it’s asking of you is to show up for it, as you are. That’s enough. That’s more than enough. That’s everything.
— Scott Stable, scottstable.com —
Wow! I love this quote. It’s so encouraging, comforting, and inspiring. But what does all that mean?
In our everyday lives, each of us are accompanied by the thoughts that run around in our heads. You cannot go one second without a thought. Even if you tried not to think, you’d be thinking about not thinking. As a way of dealing with my traumas, somehow I have taught myself to block out my thoughts. But regardless of me blocking out their noise, I can still feel their presence. They’re not gone. And never will be gone.
Through each of our life experiences as we grow up, our minds latch on to and absorb all that is said and done to us and around us. This information helps us to form ideas and opinions about ourselves and others. It’s added to and grown, shaped and changed from the second we are born to the second our last breath leaves our lungs.
Our joys and sorrows, our laughter and our tears, our good times and our bad times, our good and bad friends all influence our self perception. It’s from these that fears, mistrust and doubt are learnt. And these all effect our decisions about all aspects of our lives. We humans really are quite complex creatures.
So, where the quote says “Just show up”, what is it talking about? Show up where and for what?
This is what I understand it to be saying……….
Just show up to your life.
Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not.
No matter what life throws at you, don’t let your fears and what others think and say be the reason you don’t give something a go.
Take a step towards that thing you’ve always wanted to do, place you’ve always wanted to go, or to realise a dream.
Don’t wait for things to be in place, or the right timing, or when you are totally ready because it most certainly will never happen.
To take that chance, to take that first step, to be courageous about showing up to your own life, to do all this despite all the obstacles, is the most important thing you can do for yourself. It might have to start with you getting out of the bed you’ve spent the last two weeks laying in, but take that brave first step to show up to your life.
You only have one life to live, so just show up and be a part of it.