Rome Wasn’t Built In a Day

Rome cityYou know, Rome wasn’t built in a day!



And do you know why?

Because many people over many years put in the untiring effort and time to build one of the most beautiful cities in the world.

We have all heard someone say the phrase “Rome wasn’t built in a day”. Most of us have used it ourselves. Have you ever thought about where it came from and why?

Its origin is French, a proverb used to encourage people to take their time and be patient while undertaking tasks of a valuable or important nature.

FranceThat’s probably the most mysterious aspect about it to the majority of us. The definition of this idiom is much easier to decipher.

Large projects usually take a long period of time. If you rush it, it could prove disastrous, the end result not at all what you were hoping for. No, success and achievements aren’t measured in how quickly you can do something, but in how much effort you put in patiently.

Some people will start something only to give up a short time later. This is because they think their goals are easy to accomplish in a short period of time with little effort. They are mistaken in their attitude to, and expectations of, their results from such efforts.

Little time and little effort gets you very little in return.

Much time and much effort gets you much in return.

Get rich quick schemes rarely work, but people are always falling for them because they’re sold in a very convincing way which makes is appear easy and require little to no effort. Be wary of offers of this nature. There is no such thing as an easy ticket to success.

if the book is trueIn my endeavour to promote my very first book, I had the misconception in my mind that I would sell a hundred copies in the first week. There was so much interest in it during the publishing process over the last three and half years, I believed it would be a big hit straight off the bat. I knew what I had been told by my mentor – most authors don’t become best sellers straight away – but I believed I would be different. I would be the exception.

In fact, there are many more published authors who haven’t made it to best selling status than those who have.

How wrong I was in my expectation though!

I believed my book would fly out into the world. However, the truth of the reality was that most of the people who expressed interest didn’t purchase their pledged copy as I thought they would. Not that I would ever force anyone to buy something they don’t want. It was just how I perceived it which caused my disappointment, that’s all. I’m glad to say it didn’t last long.

When I finally reminded myself it wasn’t going to be that easy, and to believe in its success and message wasn’t wrong, my attitude changed. Instead of feeling defeated, I started to feel excited and determined again. I decided to refuse to listen to the little time and effortvoice in my head telling me to give up, it hasn’t worked and won’t.

My official book launch was organised, and even though about thirty-five people expressed interest in attending, I didn’t expect them to all turn up. Instead, I reminded myself that book launches don’t tend to be large events unless you’re famous. So, I decided if ten people turned up, it would be a good turnout for a book launch of someone who is largely unknown. On the day, eight people showed and it proved to be a success. Everyone there were extremely interested in my story and the message I want to tell every woman wanting to not hate themselves anymore.

See, the success of my book, my message and my future will not be instant. It will take a lot of hard work. It’s already taken three and half years to get to this point. I have worked hard up to now, so, it would be silly of me to give up now. There is a lot more work ahead of me, but if I am willing to put in the time and effort, and do it patiently, then my dream of being a full-time writer earning enough to not have to work for someone else will nothing worth anythingcome true.

There a number of things I have on the drawing board and have put in place a plan to see it accomplished. I don’t know how long it is going to take me to reach my goals, but I know I will get there. Time, effort and patience will guarantee it.

One quote which comes to mind which has the same message is:

“Nothing worth anything ever comes easy.”

And it is so true for those who can clearly see where they want to be and chase it. A few years ago, I had a small hanging chalkboard and had this written on it to inspire me to keep going.

Today, to help remind me of my resolve to not give up, I have a quote displayed in my office which says:

“Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice.”

Wherever you can get your inspiration to continue, take it.

Rome wasn’t built in a day, you know.



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