Growth means change and change involves risk, stepping from the known to the unknown ~ author unknown ~
What does this quote mean?
Many people like where they are. It’s comfortable, familiar, safe, and they know how to behave and react to situations, they know what to expect. It’s predictable.
But there is nothing which challenges personal growth. Each day is the same as the last. Nothing changes.
Home. Work. Home. Weekend sport. Church or Sunday family time. Repeat.
Can get pretty monotonous.
Eventually, we get to a point where we look back upon our life and ponder how we got here.
Our choices got us here. Whether it be a reaction to an unavoidable situation, or not, we had choices. And we made them. And here we are.
Do you regret any of those decisions? Have you wondered if there was another option you didn’t consider at the time? Do the “what if” and “if only” thoughts come to mind?
The truth is, we can only make decisions based on the knowledge and experience we have at the time. Sure, we can research, but we are still limited to our own wisdom concerning any given situation.
If you have come to an impasse in your life, you probably have been thinking a change is needed.
But change is scary. The fear of the unknown can be quite intimidating.
That’s where the risk comes in.
There is no change without risk.
Risk involves stepping out of your comfort zone into a place you’ve never been before.
You’re unable to predict what is going to happen. How to react and behave is not clear. Where to start is confusing. Who to speak to in order to find out the information you need is terrifying.
Is it even worth the stress and not knowing if it is going to succeed?
Succeed or fail, a choice is involved to get the ball rolling.
No risk. No change. Stay the same.
Not long before I started on my writing journey of “I Don’t Hate Me Anymore”, I had just received a notice of a rental increase. This was huge because it was a $35.00 a week jump from what I was already paying! At the time, I was also dealing with an injury which was affecting my ability to work full-time. Hence, I was only getting half a wage. Things were pretty tight, but I was managing. An extra $35.00 was going to be a stretch and I wasn’t sure how I was going to afford it.
Some money became available to me not long after that. I saw the opportunity of being able to move somewhere cheaper.
As the starting date of the rental increase crept closer, I became more depressed and anxious.
By the time I got an email from my mentor, Andrew Jobling, regarding a writing course I had started in 2012, I had looked at, and applied for 20 places. It looked hopeless of getting out before I had to start paying the extra money.
Andrew, offered me an opportunity to continue writing my book and to join his elite group, but it had a price tag.
In my mind, it was a near impossibility with everything which was going on. How was I going to move and pay for this incredible chance in front of me?
Every other time in the past when an opportunity presented itself, I was never in a position to pay the outlay. Even though it was essentially a cheap outlay, it was more money than I had available or could even afford to pay off.
Now, I was faced with a dilemma. Both were not a possibility, so I had to make a choice. It was either move or write my book.
Never at any other time in my life have I ever had the funds to chase anything which had the potential to make a big difference. It was so tempting. My heart was excited with anticipation of what could be!
After long consideration, calculations, and discussion with my children, I made a life-changing decision.
I chose to write my book.
The risk I was taking was huge! I risked not being able to put food on the table. I risked not being able to pay my bills. I risked becoming homeless. I risked losing the week-about living arrangements with my children, thus time spent with them. There was a lot on the line.
However, my children were very supportive. They wanted me to go after my dream of being an author.
Eventually, though, it did indeed lead to me being homeless, living in a leaky caravan in my parent’s backyard, and my kids went to live with their dads. There was not enough room for all of us. Even though my youngest was able to fit in there with me, it wasn’t in his best interests to live with me in the caravan.
So, I saw my children fortnightly, half of the school holidays, and for birthdays – the traditional arrangement usually afforded fathers in the Family Law Court system.
The end result?
My fears were actually realised. But that was part of the risk. And it was well worth that risk because without having taken that leap of faith, I would still be where I was back then – depressed and unhappy with my life and where my choices in life had landed me.
My children are immensely proud of me and my achievement and have told me so many times.
Would I do it again?
In a heartbeat!
The growth in confidence, self-worth, and belief in my abilities has been immense. Without this journey over the past four years, I don’t think I would be the strong person I am today.
The drive I have to help people has only got stronger. And my book will help me to do that. Which poses new risks. Time and income being the biggest risks of all.
Bring on the new change and challenges!
“Growth means change and change involves risk, stepping from the known to the unknown – author unknown.”