While attending a healing retreat in January 2004, I had an incredible experience with a red dragonfly. As I walked down the path to one of the workshops, a red dragonfly followed me the whole way down. On the way back to my room after the workshop, a red dragonfly followed me all the way back up the path. I’d never seen a red dragonfly before. It was such a beautiful creature!
And so, started my obsession with dragonflies.
When I returned home after the retreat, I tried to find dragonfly stuff to put around my house. And I was really fussy. I didn’t want them to be with any butterflies. It had to be dragonflies by themselves or I wasn’t interested.
However, I couldn’t find anything anywhere with just dragonflies. It ALWAYS had a butterfly paired with it.
About a month later, my then father-in-law found a dragonfly skin in his garden and gave it to me. I put the very fragile body in a little clear box and placed it on a shelf in my display cabinet. It became my very first dragonfly collection piece!
From then on, I searched for dragonfly items whenever I was out at the shops and scoured the pamphlets in the mail. Anywhere and everywhere.
Back then, I didn’t have a computer and buying online wasn’t really a big thing, so it never occurred to me to look on the internet (if I had even been able to afford it). Not sure how lucky I’d have been even if I did have the needed equipment to do such a search anyway. Oh well, I’ll never know, now will I? Fact remains, nothing local was found.
Then one day, while flicking through some pamphlets, I came across some dragonfly car seat covers at an Auto One! They came in pink or purple. Not being a pink fan, I just had to get the purple ones. I told my then partner, and he took me to buy them. I wasn’t to get them until my birthday, but I didn’t care. It was the first thing I had found which just had dragonflies on it. No pesky butterflies in sight.
When my birthday finally arrived, I excitedly ran to my car with those precious purple seat covers in my arms, eager to put them on my seats and then…….just stare at them! It was the best day. I couldn’t take my eyes off them. They were beautiful and they were mine!
Over the next few years, I noticed more and more dragonfly stuff in the shops, and little market stalls. I remember stopping at a little marketplace and saw this little yellow dragonfly and just had to have it. It was made out of wire and yellow stocking-type material. So cute.
Today, dragonfly paraphernalia has exploded! Much to the enjoyment of every dragonfly lover in the world. You can literally get dragonflies on absolutely anything! Or have them custom made.
For many years, I have been fascinated in the dragonfly. Their beauty, Their colours. Their majesty. The way they fly. My love of them went much deeper into my psyche.
Way before I even knew what dragonflies represented to the world, I decided they represented me. There was so much more to them than met the eye. And the same went for me. I have beauty and a colourful soul, I am a child of God, I have a purpose and a journey to take, yet so many people hated me for no reason. They misunderstood me. They believed the lies people told them about me. I was teased for my acne and needing to wear glasses. Those people didn’t care to know me. People have also hated the dragonfly for no reason as well, fearing them because of lies they’d heard.
See, dragonflies and me, we are united.
The dragonfly is a symbol of life, strength, majesty, rebirth, change, new beginnings, and the spirit world. Many people have told stories of how a loved one has passed away, and then a dragonfly appears. For them, they represent peace, reassurance, and comfort that their loved one is close by watching over them.
When I started writing my book “I Don’t Hate Me Anymore”, I knew exactly what I wanted the cover to look like. I’d had a vision about it. It was going to be a dragonfly bursting through a spider’s web and have the colours yellow and purple incorporated somehow. The web is life and the things which we get stuck in, our habits, our traumas, and everything which traps us. The dragonfly is us humans and the strength we have to break through all that stuff we know we need freedom from. Yellow represents happiness, freedom, light, and a fresh start. Purple represents royalty, majesty, strength and power. This is the significance of what the cover is all about – not just a pretty picture, but a message. A message of hope.
Please enjoy reading the following story of the dragonfly as I bid you farewell, until next week……
In a little pond, in the muddy water under the lily pads, there lived a community of little water beetles. They lived a comfortable and simple life in the pond with few disturbances. Every so often, sadness would come over the community as one of their fellow water beetles would climb the stem of a lily pad and then never be seen again. They knew this meant their friend was dead, gone forever.
Then one day, one of the little water beetles had an irresistible urge to climb the stem of one of the lily pads. However, he was determined not to be gone forever. He would come back and tell his friends what he found at the top.
When he got to the top and climbed out of the water onto the surface of the lily pad, he felt so tired, and the sun was so warm, that he decided he should have a nap.
As he slept, his body changed. When he woke up, he discovered he had turned into a beautiful blue tailed dragonfly with broad wings and a slender body designed for flying. So, fly he did! And as he soared he saw the beauty of a new world and a far superior way of life to what he never knew existed!
Then he remembered his water beetle friends and how they were thinking he was dead. He wanted to go back to tell them and explain to them that he was now more alive than he had ever been before. His life had been fulfilled rather than ended. But his new body wouldn’t go down into the water. He couldn’t get back to tell his friends the good news. Then he understood that their time would come when they, too, would know what he now knew.
So, he raised his wings and flew off into his joyous new life!